If It Hurts, That's Not It: Unabridged Audiobook on Ethical Love

As an unabridged Audible audiobook, If It Hurts, That's Not It offers a listening-format guide for people who want to approach love ethically, whether they practice monogamy or polyamory. Jaime Gama is both the author and narrator, bringing the book’s central perspective directly to the audio edition.

At 7 hours and 52 minutes, it provides a substantial listen for anyone exploring how ethical relationships fit into their life and values.

Why it’s worth it

The guide is explicitly intended for both monogamous and polyamorous listeners. That makes its central subject relevant across different relationship structures, rather than limiting the conversation to just one. Its focus is ethical love: a useful starting point for people thinking carefully about the kind of relationships they want to build and how their choices align with that aim.

Because Gama narrates the unabridged edition, listeners hear the author’s words in the audiobook format without an abridged presentation. For someone who prefers listening to reading, that format offers a practical way to engage with the guide during a dedicated listening session or alongside a regular routine. Is an audio guide the right way to explore the subject? It’s a natural fit when listening is more convenient than sitting down with a printed text.

At a glance

• Format: Audible audiobook
• Presentation: Unabridged
• Listening length: 7 hours and 52 minutes
• Author and narrator: Jaime Gama
• Publisher: Penguin Random House Audio
• Publication date: May 8, 2025

How to use it

Treat it as a listening companion for personal reflection on ethical love and relationship choices. Its stated audience includes people who are monogamous as well as those who are polyamorous, so listeners can approach the subject from their own relationship context. The full-length audio format also suits anyone who wants to follow a book through listening rather than reading a physical or digital text.

If you are choosing between formats, this edition is centered on narrated listening, while a text-based book suits readers who prefer to move through material on the page. The author-narrated format gives this version a clear identity: it is a spoken presentation of Gama’s guide, not a collection of unrelated relationship topics or a general-purpose audio title.

Buying verdict

This audiobook is a considered choice for listeners seeking a guide to ethical love that names both monogamous and polyamorous relationships as part of its intended audience. The unabridged presentation, author narration, and substantial listening length make it well suited to anyone who wants to spend time with the subject in audio form. Choose it when you want a focused relationship guide you can hear, with Jaime Gama narrating the book directly.